Where are the Others?

I ask God often, "Where are the others?" never dreaming that he was raising up fellow sufferers in my midst and then I realized! "That means they are feeling like I have felt, oh, NO! That's not what I meant!!" I have never felt so torn before about the truths of the cross. Knowing that I desire others to stay the corse to endure to bear up under the cost to  continue in the path of affliction, but I don't desire others to suffer or to be abased! I want people to understand what it is to walk along after Christ but I forget that means they must bear a cross, they must become like christ is!